Elements of Healing


  1. Try to remember, try not to forget.
  2. Good memories are important
  3. Time can result in either healing or infection.
  4. You need support from both inside and outside your family.
  5. Faith – Prayer – Community:  where would you turn without them?
  6. Learning about the experience of others gives insight into your own story.
  7. Assume whatever you are going through is normal.
  8. Share the pain of your darkness.
  9. Be sensitive to the fact the people grieve differently.
  10. Sharing with those who have been there has a special meaning.
  11. Feel free to protest the “why” of death.
  12. Take time and space for yourself and work through your guilt over doing so.
  13. Take time to laugh and to cry.
  14. Take the initiative and make things happen for yourself; work, activity, exercise.
  15. Life will never be like it was.  You will need to create a new life, make new choices, and develop new friendships.
  16. Reach out and help others.  Beware of dwelling on yourself.
  17. Confront guilt by realizing you did the best you could.
  18. Be grateful if you experience a happy death.
  19. You must let go of your loved one.
  20. Through dreams, visions and other means it is possible to experience the comforting and reassuring presence of your loved one.
  21. There is nothing wrong with talking to the dead.
  22. Persons who have been down the road before you can be symbols of hope.
  23. Your experience of death may cause others to make significant changes for the better in their lives and relationships.


About the Author: Mr. Todd Van Beck is one of the most sough-after speakers and educators in funeral service. He is the general manager of Forest Hills Funeral Home and Memorial Park, Memphis, Tennessee. He is also director of education for StoneMor Partners. He is dean of ICCFA University’s College of Funeral Home Management and is on the faculty of ICCFAU’s new College of Embalming and Restorative Arts.


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