2020 may just be a year of unfortunate events - from the COVID-19 pandemic, to volcanic eruptions, strong typhoons in our country and forest fires on the other side of the world. Humanity has faced a lot of trials but we still try to move on and live our lives, however difficult - especially to those who have lost friends and family along the way.
The sudden passing of friends and family is more challenging during these times, with limited opportunities to do helpful grief recovery activities or be with one’s support group. If left unaddressed, grief can take a toll on a person’s physical and mental health which is not favorable while we are still experiencing a health crisis.
While we are still in the midst of this pandemic and our battle with COVID-19 is far from over, we would like to suggest the following tips that can be helpful in dealing with grief and loss.
According to Dr. M. Katherine Shear, we need to accept death, the presence of the pandemic and its consequences. We need the power of courage, creativity, and fortitude to change what we can. This means finding ways to restore your well-being and to cope with the pandemic. This includes three basic components which are: 1) acting in ways that are consistent with important personal values or deeply held interests; 2) feeling competent to face and meet important challenges in life; and, 3) having a sense of belonging and matter in the world.
Give yourself the permission to mourn and treat yourself and others with kindness during these times. We might have different perspectives in life - from our experiences, beliefs and traditions. It is hard to cope with grief during this pandemic but we need to be strong for ourselves and our loved ones. Remember: focus on the present and the things you can manage.
Seek the help of professionals if you are having problems managing your grief caused by the pandemic. Here are the hotline numbers of the NATIONAL MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS, 0917-899-USAP(8727) and 989-USAP(8727).
References:
Article title: Coronavirus grief: Coping with the loss of routine during the pandemic
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/coronavirus/in-depth/coping-with-coronavirus-grief/art-20486392
Article title: How to Cope With Grief Amid COVID-19
https://healthmatters.nyp.org/how-to-cope-with-grief-amid-covid-19/
Article title: Grieving During a Pandemic
https://www.brighamandwomens.org/covid-19/grieving-during-a-pandemic